"For most human beings, to love means to ask, to demand, to require. Yes, literally! This is how people conduct themselves with the Lord, and also with those they claim to love: they pursue them with their demands and, no matter what they receive, they are never satisfied. Do you want to know if you truly love others? Then, here is a simple criterion: do you feel grateful to them? If you ask nothing of them, if you are moved to thank them in words – or merely in your thoughts – simply because they are there, because they exist, then yes, you can be sure that you love them. Otherwise, describe your feelings however you wish, but this is not love."
Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov